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Meeting my Ideal Man

Videocall943_sketchDear Friends, let me share with you how I met my ideal man. At 21 I met a very nice young man, he was the ideal man for me, very smart, very nice body and well educated. It was a cultural shock for me to discover this man’s mind and presence. He worked for a public institution in my city so he had a suit on and after work he had the simplest t-shirt, as I said, the ideal man!!! We became friends and shortly I became obsessed with him. I was so in love that I would follow him everywhere and made sure to join him in all his trips. Shortly his internship was over and he went on to another country, doing another internship. I was not sad that he left because I knew that at that stage of my life, I was not ready or willing to wear all Lacoste and eat with a fork and a knife. I was at the stage when I was working as a waitress to support myself and was eating while rushing to class or work. So I thought to myself: you are not at his level at the moment, once time will pass and things will get better, how knows??? maybe it will happen. Because we kept in touch this feeling got even stronger. I thought to myself that if I really want to get to this guy’s level, I should work on myself. Here the English lessons started, better grades, and instead of working in a bar I applied for a position at an embassy, and then at an international consultancy company. I started being very socially active, got involved in NGOs, charity activities, international projects, conferences and business trips, reading like crazy, writing and publishing articles … I was always looking to meet more interesting and important people so that I could cultivate myself. When the time comes I want to meet him again and take his breath away! Every decision that I made was based on: would his girlfriend (but I was thinking wife) settle for this level or she would push more and get better results??? Every event that I attended was based on the same logic: is this event interesting enough for his wife? Every peace of clothing or jewel was carefully researched and selected on the same criteria.  Basically, I dragged my ass from a world of waiting tables to an international business environment and I enjoyed every moment of it!!! I became an elegant girl and at the same time I could relax and just go out for a beer. I was doing all these thinking that I have all the potential of making it in this world and getting my ideal man. We kept in touch and he always knew about my activities and was genuine happy for me, happy and proud. I was thinking to myself that the magic day is coming and 2 years of hard work on myself will pay out. We kept in touch even if we constantly moved and lived in other countries.
During the Autumn we agreed to spend the new year’s eve together in Budapest, since it is very close to his country. From the conversation I felt that he is on the same page as me, this would mean more that a visit to Budapest, this would mean another try for us as a couple. This time I had all the cards in my sleeve!!!

to be continue at Meeting my Ideal Man – 2


December 29, 2012 - Posted by | Dating, Obsessions | , , , ,


  1. Malinka, I love this story, and am looking forward to part two! I am so impressed at all you’ve done to change your circumstances. You said once that you found much of yourself in my posts. I, too, made changes in my early twenties, and it changed my life. Can’t wait to see what happens next. 🙂

    Comment by Maddie Cochere | December 30, 2012 | Reply

    • Thank you Maddie! I am very nervous when I post things about my dating life, it is my weak spot and I appreciate your support!

      Comment by malinkasstudio | January 2, 2013 | Reply

  2. Beautiful…..loved it 🙂 Eagerly waiting for part 2

    Comment by expressionistaura | December 30, 2012 | Reply

    • Thank you! not sure if you will like the second part but it the what it is!

      Comment by malinkasstudio | January 2, 2013 | Reply

  3. Love it. Waiting for Part-II

    Comment by VroonMenon | December 31, 2012 | Reply

    • thank you! the second part was unexpected for me too but it the what it is!

      Comment by malinkasstudio | January 13, 2013 | Reply

      • It is all part of the learning. What you take from this is priceless and will make you wiser for the future. And given the optimist I presume you are through the blogs I have read, I am sure you will find your “Ideal Man” sooner than you know it. Good Luck. 🙂

        Comment by VroonMenon | January 14, 2013

  4. I feel really happy and optimist when I read about these kind of things. I’ve always hoped I’d be with someone special. I think I realised it till she left. And I know I am 6 months too late. But I felt so nice reading this. Waiting for part 2

    Comment by VroonMenon | January 1, 2013 | Reply

    • Thank you so much for caring! ha ha, I truly believe that we are never too late!
      The second part is also optimistic 🙂 you will see 🙂

      Comment by malinkasstudio | January 2, 2013 | Reply

  5. […] here is the 1st part: Meeting my Ideal Man […]

    Pingback by Meeting my Ideal Man – 2 « Malinka's Studio | January 2, 2013 | Reply

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